WHAT DOES HSP MEAN?
HSP – highly sensitive people, because we will talk about them today, constitute 15-20% of the population. Does the fact that you are not HSP mean you are not sensitive – NO.
HSP people have above-average sensitivity. They experience more, perceive more, are exposed to overstimulation, often misunderstood. A highly sensitive person, often mistaken for an introvert or a neurotic. So now let’s make it more clear, high sensitivity – advantages and disadvantages.
HSP – A GIFT OR A CURSE?
It is extremely important that from an early age, sensitivity is noticed by the caregivers and the environment, and that such a highly sensitive child is understood and directed in the right direction.
When a HSP person receives support from an early age, he will spread his wings and often hidden talent. In the worst case, the effects of misunderstanding and not recognizing high sensitivity can be difficulties in interacting with peers, problems with stress and complete undermining of self-confidence.
HIGH SENSITIVITY – CHARACTERISTICS
A HSP person experiences stress more strongly, intercepts the moods of people around him, analyzes and perceives details not noticed by others.
This person often tries to adjust to the environment, puts the good of others above his own, does not want to be misunderstood at all costs, which can lead to frustration and surrounding himself with people with whom he has nothing to do.
Sensitive people, have a rich imagination, are sensitive to beauty, taste, smell and sounds.
HSP can react strongly to pain, hunger, scenes of violence and life changes.
A highly sensitive person will try with all his strength to avoid stressful situations and, in return, seek peace, silence and balance. HSP is characterized by a rich inner life, looks for answers, reflects on the meaning of life. Overstimulating and stimulating such a person can risk an unexpected outburst.
Quiet, calm, but often eye-catching. Conscientious, talented, empathetic… these are some of the features of HSP.
A HSP person feels more intensely and processes the stimuli coming from the environment and from the inside himself more intensely.
Emotional sensitivity is innate and genetically determined.
A sensitive person analyzes longer before making a decision, and due to the fact that he experiences harder, he becomes satiated faster and experiences emotional fatigue faster.
HSP people see details more easily in both the material and social world.
LIVING WITH HSP
It is not easy for a person with high sensitivity these days. In times when you need to be stress-resistant, go-ahead, make decisions quickly.
A HSP person is often distracted by the slightest sound, such people strive for perfection and struggle with difficulty. HSP needs more time to get used to the new one, no matter if it’s good or bad.
Erroneously assigned terms such as complex, withdrawn, shy – do not improve the situation. A highly sensitive person takes much longer to trust, but once they let the other person into their circle, they are a great friend. This person is understanding, trustworthy, supportive and empathetic.
HIGH SENSITIVITY – WHAT DID IT BEGIN?
What prompted me to delve into the topic of high sensitivity?
What contributed to the search for answers and solutions?
Is high sensitivity a gift from fate or a cruel punishment?
Everything started with the comments like: “You are oversensitive”, “stop worrying”, “don’t take it personally”, “shy”, “hysterical”, “exaggerate”, “savage” … These are just some phrases and terms, with which we are sensitive.
ME – THE HSP PERSON – 20 THINGS WHICH EVERYTHING BEGAN
When did I start thinking about being HSP?
- When I feel like loud music, but after 5 minutes I am so tired of it, that I have to stay in complete silence.
- When I feel like going to a disco, but after 30 minutes of strong lights and incredibly loud music, it feels like 24 hours in the field.
- When, while sleeping or reading a book, I have to put on earplugs, because every even the softest sound distracts me completely and drives me crazy.
- When it comes to advertising something, applying for something, or needing to confront another person, I have indescribable stress and I do my best to avoid that kind of situation.
- When it comes to confrontation and I burst into tears, my body shakes and I can’t control my emotions.
- When each new person, new situation, new job makes me analyze every second, I feel anxiety and fear of not understanding.
- When I resort to yoga and meditation, when I start looking for ways to find balance and happiness.
- When strong overstimulation, sounds, screams, stress, fatigue, hunger cause me an outburst or indescribable physical and mental fatigue.
- When, after two days with my family, I have had enough and I am looking for my place of retreat, I need silence, peace and a return to balance, only then can I enjoy the company of my loved ones again.
- When I am touched when I see a beautiful picture, I hear a wonderful song, or when I see the beauty of nature.
- When I start to paint, write, run away to the world that will chase away bad thoughts and stress.
- When I have incredibly realistic dreams and my imagination gets out of hand.
- When I avoid going out to meet my boyfriend’s friends because I am stressed by sparkling with strangers.
- When I create scenarios for myself, analyze, think what and when to say, I try to meet expectations and I only want to adapt so as not to be misunderstood.
- When I watch facts or news, or a document or movie, where there are strong scenes of violence, human harm, or animal harm, I can’t sleep. I keep recreating the images I see in my head and I feel physical pain at the thought of hurting others.
- When I found out I had a very sensitive nervous system.
- When, even on vacation, in a new scenery, but good and positive, I still need a long time to get used to it and feel comfortable and safe.
- When I need a long time to trust another person.
- When I don’t get enough sleep it turns me into a zombie and feeling hungry into a malicious and emotionless person.
- When I think hard about the meaning of my life, the fate of the planet and the search for the right path.
If you are more interested about that topic, I recomend you to read that book.
You can make a test answering on my questions or you can also find a link below to official website related to HSP
HSP – HOW TO TAMILIZE SENSITIVITY
At the moment, do I still identify with all 20 points? – NO.
There is a long way behind me and ahead of me.
Every day I tame my sensitivity, I adapt it to my life.
I have to take care of my mental health, avoid stressful situations as much as possible. But I can see tremendous improvement and I can say that I am proud of myself.
Believe that I have found my space. I am not afraid of people as I used to be. I can put my own way and present my point of view. There is no need to adjust, and I simply pushed people who do not bring anything positive to my life aside.
I am still irritated by the little things, but I try to work on it. I am still emotional, I think about my life, but it seems to be a plus. High sensitivity is not a curse, but it’s important to spot it early and work on yourself.
Unfortunately, I was not so lucky. But in my adult life, I face my weaknesses and everything is going in the right direction.
Be sure to write if such people are among you. Maybe you are HSP alone. Maybe you feel misunderstood and you are looking for support … know that you are not alone.
See you in the next post.